You fell in love with him because he was charming and intimate but now he is nothing closer to that. Find ways to make him intimate again.
What is intimacy?
Intimacy refers to the openness, mutual vulnerability, and close familiarity and friendship experienced in a relationship. It can also be used to denote the sexual pleasure experienced in a relationship. However, this intimacy can dwindle and with time be bound to fail. If it is not rekindled, most relationships will end up being crushed. With time, your love starts going from hot and heavy to slow burn.
But what if I told you that all is not lost and you can be able to salvage the left pieces in your relationship and re-ignite that intimacy you first felt? If this is your case, then these tips might help you rebuild your love empire.
Four types of intimacy
.Experiential Intimacy: This is experienced when people bond in the process of leisure activities. As you do a common activity together, you build a rhythm. An example is to say when you decide to bake together.
.Emotional Intimacy: This happens when people feel safe to share their feelings with each other including the very uncomfortable ones. It involves confiding in one another.
.Intellectual Intimacy: This happens when people feel comfortable sharing ideas and opinions even when they disagree. This level calls for agreeing to disagree.
.Sexual Intimacy: In a relationship,this is the pinnacle of intimacy. This is between two lovers and involves engaging in sensual or sexual activities. Enjoying this level of intimacy in a relationship is greatly affected by the other levels of intimacy. But what if the intimacy is simply dying off? How do you revive it?
5 Ways how to rekindle intimacy in your relationship
- Remember the beginning: You want to rekindle the intimacy because you had something special before. Start by remembering what originally made the prince intimate. Are there things you yourself did to cause him to be intimate?
- Revive what was lost: Original from can be regained by reconstructing using what originally developed the thing you are recreating. Start reviving those things that used to excite him and ignite his intimacy. Those sporadic hugs and kisses; those special meals and regular texts. Revive them
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- Create interest in his affairs: Men are naturally regarded as lone rangers and strong. However, from time to time, they require care and approval. Start showing renewed concern in what he does and what he is even going through. This will build the emotional and intellectual intimacy which will translate to a turn on in your intimate life with him.
- Common activities: Start doing things together once again. Cook, watch a movie, or even do a morning jog together. This provides for a moment of bonding and helping his thoughts incline towards you.
- Do something that kicks up his adrenaline and arousal: Young relationships with a lot of adrenaline rush and excitement. This can be told by the number of feelings seeing him or even the idea of meeting him would bring. Look for activities that would help re-ignite these feelings e.g. surprise gifts and dinners.
How not to lose it again
(i)Be available for him
(ii)Constant communication
(iii)Regular dates
(iv)Be his number one cheerleader and not his discourager
(v)Do not shy off from taking the lead
It is possible to keep intimate flame burning. Do not let it go off completely.
